Five Questions to Discover Your True Calling

You know that nudge. The one that whispers you're meant for more. Not more as in better than being a mom or wife, but more as in there's something else God wired into you that keeps trying to surface. A burden you can't shake. A passion that shows up in unexpected moments. A fight for something bigger than your own family. Eileen Noyes, host of The Unsidelined Life podcast and mother of eight, wants you to understand something: that nudge is God calling you to speak up for someone who cannot speak for themselves. Proverbs 31:8 commands it directly. Everyone is designed to take down a giant. David had Goliath. You have yours too.

When God Highlights the Same Message Repeatedly  

For three consecutive days, Eileen kept hearing the same scripture: Ephesians 6:12. First in her morning reading. Then in an audible book about the Deborah Anointing. Then in a podcast. Then, in a Michael Dalton sermon, she randomly turned on while working out. Four times in three days. We don't wrestle against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers. That's how God works when He has something to say. He highlights things. He repeats messages through different channels until you finally stop and listen. And what He wanted Eileen to understand was this: the wrestling you're experiencing right now, the resistance you keep hitting, the doubt that floods your mind when you think about stepping into something new, that's not just a random struggle. It's spiritual warfare. The enemy is fighting you because he's intimidated by what God has waiting on the other side of your obedience.

Everyone Is Called to Speak Up  

Proverbs 31:8 gives a clear mandate: speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, ensure justice for those being crushed. The obvious application is protecting your kids. Speaking up when they can't. Being the mom bear who defends them at school, brings awareness to your husband about what he might not see during the day, stands in the gap when they need someone with authority to advocate. But it goes deeper than that. God has called every single woman to something where she's supposed to stand up for people who are being silenced. Maybe it's not a literal inability to speak. Maybe it's a situation that nobody talks about. A struggle that gets swept under the rug. A pain that women suffer through alone because there's no voice encouraging them to push through. Where is that for you? Who is the person or what is the situation you're called to take a stand for?

Five Questions That Reveal Your Calling  

Eileen walks through five strategic questions that expose where God is calling you. These aren't surface-level inquiries. They dig into the places where your purpose has been hiding, waiting for you to finally recognize it.

Where Are Your Burdens and Passions?  

What keeps you up at night? What situations make your heart race with anger or grief? What injustice do you see that other people seem to ignore? Those burdens aren't random. God wired you to care deeply about specific things because He's calling you to be the voice in those areas.

For Eileen, it's always been women who don't know their value. In college athletics, she saw girls looking for validation through guys and physical appearance. In the NFL world, she watched wives losing their identity, suffering in silence because nobody understood the pressure of that glamorous-looking life. The burden to help women see their worth in God has followed her through every season.

When you look back at your life, you'll likely see your burden has always been there. Maybe circumstances or wounding kept it from showing up fully, but the passion existed. Pay attention to what consistently stirs you. That's God revealing where you're meant to speak.

Where Has the Devil Tried to Silence You?  

This question is critical because where the enemy fights you hardest reveals where God is calling you. The devil doesn't waste energy attacking random areas of your life. He targets the exact places where your voice would make the biggest impact if you let it out.

Eileen's passion was helping women know their value, but the enemy spent years trying to silence that very voice. He attacked her worth. He made her question whether anyone would actually pay for her insight. He flooded her mind with doubt right before she launched her coaching program. That resistance wasn't a coincidence. It was confirmation. The enemy was intimidated by what would happen when she stepped fully into her calling.

Where does doubt consistently attack you? What area makes you question your value or qualifications? Where do you feel resistance every time you try to move forward? That's probably exactly where God wants you to speak. The enemy wouldn't fight you if breakthrough wasn't on the other side.

What Are You Wrestling With?  

We don't wrestle against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers. Wrestling indicates spiritual warfare. But not all wrestling comes from the same source, and understanding the difference matters. There's wrestling with doubt. That's from the enemy trying to keep you from living out your purpose. He whispers that you're not qualified, not good enough, not ready. He makes you question whether your voice matters.

There's wrestling with resistance from the devil. He throws obstacles in your path, creates distractions, discourages you right before major breakthroughs. He wants you to quit before you reach what God has prepared. But there's also wrestling that comes from the Lord. Resistance training. Refining. This is God preparing you for your calling. He's teaching you, molding you, building strength through the weight of challenges. This wrestling makes you ready to carry what He's about to give you.

Learning to discern which wrestling you're experiencing helps you know how to respond. Enemy wrestling requires you to push through in faith. God's refining wrestling requires you to submit and learn what He's teaching.

Where Is Your Hurt and Trauma?  

What the devil meant for evil, God will use for good. The very thing that wounded you might be the exact place you're called to speak. You've been there. You felt it. You understand the pain in ways someone who hasn't experienced it never will. A lot of times, your burdens exist because you were them at one point. Eileen's heart for women who don't know their value stems from her own journey of searching for worth in all the wrong places. Her desire to help NFL wives came from living in that world and seeing the hidden struggles behind the glamour.

Your trauma isn't wasted. Someone is going through right now what you survived. Someone needs to hear that you went through it, you understand, you made it out, and they can too. Your hurt positions you to be the voice for others experiencing the same crushing weight.

What Have You Gone Through That Someone Needs to Hear?  

This connects directly to the previous question but focuses on testimony. You could keep your past private. You've moved on. You're in a different place now. Nobody needs to know what you survived. Except someone does need to know. Someone is drowning in the exact situation you escaped. They need hope that getting through is possible. They need practical insight from someone who's been there. They need to know they're not alone.

Eileen could stay quiet about the hard seasons. But her heart to continue sharing is because someone listening is in the thick of it right now. They need to hear that she survived, that God got her through, that there's purpose on the other side of pain. Who needs to hear your story? What wisdom did you gain that someone else desperately needs? Your voice could be the difference between someone giving up and someone pushing through.

You May Need Healing First  

Here's the critical piece many women miss: you might not be ready to be that voice yet. Not because God hasn't called you, but because you need healing before you can help others well. Eileen introduces her coaching program, Healed Mom Restored Home, with this understanding. God called her to be a voice for women, but He had to heal her first. He dealt with blind spots. He worked through wounds. He brought her from brokenness to wholeness, from hurting to healed, so she could help others from a healthy place.

If she was still in major brokenness, she wouldn't be able to see clearly enough to help others. Her immaturity and wounding would cloud her discernment. The healing journey wasn't optional. It was preparation. The same may be true for you. Right now might be your season of preparation. God might be healing you so you can eventually be the voice for others who haven't found theirs yet. Don't despise this season. It's making you ready for what's coming.

Your Calling Is Greater Than You Realize  

You are called to something deeper, something more expansive than you currently understand. God has wired you with specific burdens, passions, and experiences that position you to speak up for people who desperately need your voice. The wrestling you're experiencing isn't random. The resistance you keep hitting isn't bad luck. The burden you can't shake isn't just emotional sensitivity. It's God revealing your calling.

Answer these five questions honestly. Where are your burdens? Where has the devil tried to silence you? What are you wrestling with? Where is your trauma? What have you survived that someone needs to hear about? Then lean in. The very places where you feel the most resistance are probably exactly where God wants you to step forward. The enemy wouldn't fight you this hard if breakthrough wasn't ahead. You're designed to take down a giant. You're called to speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves. Someone needs the voice that only you can provide.

Listen to this episode of The Unsidelined Life and discover the calling you were created for.

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